Being Untidy

I have to admit it, I'm really untidy. My room can look like a cave in 2 minutes. With other stuff like work or my notes from Uni I've always been really tidy, I always know where everything is and I'm really proud of that! But with my room I just can't!!!

I remember the look on Jake's face the first time he saw my room back in Sunderland, he was too polite to say anything but he was amazed! lol! I always try my best to keep things tidy but I just can't! For example, many times I've tried to tidy up on a Saturday morning, then I go out at night and before that I need to try a few outfits. After a few "oh my god I look so fat", "this makes me look old" blah blah blah I make up my mind  and of course I always leave with no extra time to tidy up! Next thing I know it's Sunday morning I have two options: a) i'm tired or b) i'm hungover , so there's no way I'm gonna tidy up!  Then the week starts and I have no time to tidy up! (well that was back in the day now that i'm unemployed I have no excuse lol!)

Now that Jake lives here, he tries his best to keep things tidy, so when I don't behave I get told off by him and my mother. Lovely isn't it? :P

But I came up with an awesome theory and I have evidence! As soon as I leave my room things get untidy because they're alive!




The video is crap, but I couldn't get better "evidence" lol!

Thanks for reading!!

Pilar

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Push / Pull

My boyfiend gave me the idea to write this post. The other day we went to a restaurant (nothing fancy cuz we're poor, maybe it was a Vips). And I tried to open the door, I push and I couldn't open it so ... I pushed harder, then he came and opened the door by pulling it. Then he told me: "I think this tells a lot about ur personality. When you cannot open the door by pushing it instead of thinking maybe I should pull, you thought oh well I'll push harder lol".

Maybe there are two types of people in the world the ones that'd keep pushing and the ones that'd start pulling instead. This made me think about how little things can tell you loads from a person.
Well sometimes they are not that little, I remember a time that I was talking to a guy I liked and instead of paying attention to what I was saying (I'm sure it wasn't thaaat boring) he spent 5 minutes staring at his reflection on my sunglasses.

Sometimes I wish I was the kind of person who can tell what a person is thinking or how he is just by staring at the things he does. Like Dr Lightman in the show "Lie to me". For those of you that don't know what I'm talking about here's a little synopsis:


"DR. Cal Lightman can detect the truth by analyzing a person's face, body, voice and speech. When someone shrugs one shoulder, rotates their hand or raises their lower lip, Lightman knows they're lying. By analyzing facial expressions, he can read feelings - from hidden resentment to sexual attraction to jealousy." by  http://www.aceshowbiz.com/tv/lie_to_me/summary.html

This ability would be soooo helpful for job interviews! This way you could tell If they are really interested in ur CV and by your answers, analyzing their reaction you could know for sure what they'd wanna hear next!!


Sometimes when you start dating someone, this "little things" are super important. Especially if you are not 100% convinced about the guy, you focus even harder on those things to see if you can get an excuse to not see him again like the way he eats, walks, talks, or answers the phone!
I say this cuz I've experimented yself that If you really like the guy he could eat like a pig and walk like a lorry driver: you couldn't care less! :P


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Pilar

Little girls

Sometimes I wonder what it'll be like to be a mum. It's something that I wouldn't even have thought of a year ago but now I feel kinda soft when I see cute babies, maybe my fiance has something to do with it too lol!

The baby phase and toddler phase I think would be alright. But I have to admit (and I know this is gonna sound sexist) that I'm absolutely terrified of having a baby girl! Ok... when they're babies they look really cute but when they grow up it can be quite stressful!
I don't want my baby girl to do the same things I've done!! I don't even want to think that stupid boys will break her heart! And what's worse...I don't wanna argue with a teenager! I feel like Claire Dunphy from Modern Family when she says: "if Hayley (her daughter) doesn't wake up half naked at a beach in Miami with a guy she doesn't know, we'd have done our jobs as good parents". Not that I had a terrible teenage phase but I wouldn't like to see my little girl with " a sailor"!! (if you don't get it read the " sailor complex post").

Now when I look back I have to admit that many times I was absolutely terrible to my folks! Like for example, the clothes. Usually we go thru that phase where we'd wear things that especially our mums hate just to annoy them! And when we are that age we have to fight against everything! 99.9% of the time I felt like everyone in my house was against me and that no one understood me, I bet they did, but they didn't want to listen to me moaning and complaining aaaaaall the time!

I used to take groups of spanish kids to Canada during the summer to learn english. Some of the worst things I had to deal with were cat fights!! They were soooo mean to each other!!! I prefer boys in that matter, they might punch each other a couple of times and that's it! They can be friends again! But with girls it's a lot more complicated they're mean and they don't stop till the other one is crying herself to sleep night after night!

Oh well, maybe cuz i'm writing this I'll be "blessed" with 14 baby girls.... :P

Thanks for reading

Pilar

The Apple Conjecture

Today I got told off for something very simple, peeling an apple for my boyfriend. My mum thought that I was doing it because he told me to (one of the inconveniences of speaking two languages at the house lol). The truth is that he is a risk for his own health (if you've seen him doing it you'd understand). I can understand that my mum was concerned, but it all ended up as a misunderstanding.

A few years ago I was super feminist, girl power etc. But now that I'm in a serious relationship my point of view has changed. Before, I think, we all went thru the "sex and the city complex", we all had to be maneaters and they should be begging on their knees for our love. Don't we wanna be equal? Well, let's start giving a good example! For me a relationship should be balanced: 50% - 50% = a team. If you cannot do something the other one will be there to help, one can cook and the other can tidy up the kitchen. I don't know If you'll agree with me but that's what I think. Whether they like it or not, boys have their little hearts too, they want to be truly loved and the same way we wanna be treated like the most important thing in the world, so do they!

Lately we haven't been being fair with guys in some matters ( cuz in other areas, sadly we're still far way behind ). A couple of weeks ago I was watching a gossips/talk show program and there was a girl saying how her ex boyfriend had cheated on her. Apparently in the story she was telling, she found out that he was having sex with someone else and she went crazy and started punching, slapping and hitting him with her purse. The crowd went crazy: well done girl!! And I was shocked!! What would have happened if it was the other way around? If the guy had done exactly the same thing he'd be in jail by now.

As I said, I think we should consider each other as equals, 50% - 50%. Something balanced will make us happy.

Thanks for reading

Pilar

Getting ready & make up

No matter how many times you try to explain it to a guy...they'll never get it! They don't understand the effort of getting ready to go out. I know it all sounds pretty girly but it's true! Hair, make up, etc I believe that if on the first date my boyfriend had seen me the way I look when I wake up, he would have never called me again! lol! (well when the 3litres of water soaked me to the bone, my make up was ruined but at least he had already seen me looking "decent")

Sometimes people (to be nice) can tell you, oh! you don't need any make up blah blah blah... I remember that when I went to Uni, once I did an experiment (well now i like to call it an experiment but probably it was a sleepless night trying to write an essay) : i went to uni with no make up on, not even mascara. Well maybe 99.9% of my classmates asked something like: are you ok? are u feeling well? you seem a bit tired/pale... I guess that when people get used to see u wearing make up this is the reaction you might get.

You live under a lot of preasure when you start dating someone, you have to be ready and try to look your best lol. Once back in Sunderland I had to go out (maybe i've been dating Jake for 2 or 3 weeks by then), the bank, Tesco and a few more things. It was cold and I wasn't too keen on getting ready, so i decided to wear my uni hoodie, pair of jeans and a hat to hide the actual look of my hair. As soon as I got to town he called me: his class finished early and he wanted to see me and to meet a few of his classmates.....SH**!!! I didn't know how to explain it without sounding stupid! I had to run home and get ready, I bet he wouldn't have liked to see me like that! lol

Cutting my hair was a really important factor on the amount of time I need to get ready, back in the day with my long hair it could be easily more than an hour! But anyway, when we have to go out my poor boyfriend (bless him) sits around for ages looking awesome, smelling good and ready to go (the things boys do for love lol) while I'm still drying my hair.

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Pilar

Sailor complex (guys)

After a few years I came up with this term, it seems like more and more guys are suffering from it. Fortunately I've already found my other half (I know it sounds a bit cheesy but it's true!) but I had to kiss a few frogs till I found my prince lol! A friend of mine went thru something like this recently so this post is also dedicated to her (you know who u are love!)

First of all I'll explain the sailor complex: in the old days many sailors had a woman in each port, the poor girls never knew that there was someone else so they felt special, whenever the guy visited the lady he told her how wonderful she was blah blah blah and had sex with her. Believe it or not we have loads of guys today that behave like this! For the girl it's difficult to identify this behaviour at the begining specially if she really likes him. But there are some few clear signs that create the patern of "the sailor".

I'll give a few examples. He calls you, you feel excited because, what the hell! he called you first. So u feel really special! You meet, have a good time and then...he starts speaking, he shares what seems to be his deepest thoughts and stuff. That way you think he is a really cool guy and you start to trust him. Then he tells you what you believe are his problems, then you start to "admire him" because he's a tortured soul, and there's something quite...bohemian about it. The date is over and he says that he had a wonderful time and that he'll definately will call you tomorrow. So the next day begins, you carry ur cell phone everywhere, even if you go to the loo you take it with you "because he's gonna call". Lunch time, no signs of him, but just in case you start to get ready, a long shower, facial mask, you get ur nails done that kind of thing. The day goes by and he hasn't call, you go to bed pissed and swearing that you'll never talk to him again. A couple of days later, he calls you and gives you the most outrageous excuse but you believe it! There's a really wide range of excuses, but If you really like the guy you'd start believing things like: I was going to call you when a pigeon attacked me and destroyed my phone, a storm left me with no signal on my phone...

And of course when you start talking about a relationship he says things like: you deserve something better than this but I don't wanna loose you blah blah blah! we have a great friendship, why ruin it? excuses! he is a sailor! he wants to have you there for the next sex round! Of course there are more girls! (in 99.9% of the cases).

We should be a bit smarter and don't be blinded by this kind of individuals! We deserved to be treated as the most precious thing in the world! (so do they if they deserve it lol) and when the right guy comes along you'll know it, you'll just have to look into his eyes and that'll be enough to know how much he loves you.

Thanks for reading!

Pilar

Hairdressers

This might sound a bit superficial, but going to a hairdressers it's one of the hardest things a woman has to face on her lifetime!
When you are a kid it's "easy" your mum decides for you, when you are a teenager, it gets a bit harder. When I became a teenager it was "fashionable" to have two thick chicken blond highlights on each side or your face... I can tell you that it was absolutely horrible! (sorry If any of you had it!) but I wanted to have them! everyone else did! But my mum very wisely didn't let me (after a two hour argument that most likely involved tears on my side). Or If I wanted something terrible my mum just would have a previous word with the hairdressers (probably a non life threatening  piece of "advice") and as soon as I got there and shared my plan with her, she would tell me that it wouldn't look good on me. It's funny how you take advide from a stranger and not from your own mum.

But, time flies by, so I became a young girl (not to say an adult, I don't wanna sound old! lol). And then I started to go to the hairdressers by myself. WRONG! I should still have my mum around! I just rather have an argument with her once than having to stand the screaming when I get back home! lol. And the worst is when you know that you look absolutely disgusting. Like that time I decided to dye my hair, a normal color wasn't good enough for me so I decided I'd look good with orange hair MISTAKE!!! I had to live with the shame for weeks! My integrity would have been safe if my mum was there.

But sometimes even the wise advise from a mother is not enough to prevent disasters. Some hairdressers speak in a different language or code. If you say: please don't cut too much, they'll do it! Or ... I'd like my highlights in a NATURAL blond shade = chicken blond...

I wasn't sure about writing this post at the begining because my mum will be dead chuffed when she reads it and she'll tell me one of the phrases that I hate the most to hear from her: I TOLD YOU SO!
ohh mums... sometimes they give us a hard time, but what would we do without them?

I love you Mum!!

Thanks for reading!

Pilar